Before You Marry

  1. God’s Word is the definitive authority on what is right and what is best.
  2. Morality is not determined by feelings, logic, or popular opinion.
  3. Physical intimacy is to be avoided until you are married.
  • First Corinthians 7:1-2 “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.”
  • James 4:17 “Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.”
  • Men and women are designed by God to be physically attracted to each other. Understanding God’s design will help you to understand the desires you have for each other and to make wise decisions to avoid temptation. (Refer to Harley’s book, His Needs, Her Needs)
  • Second Timothy 2:22 “Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”
  • First Corinthians 6:18   Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
  1. You can be pure, and you can do right
  • First Corinthians 10:13   There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
  • Second Peter 2:9   The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be punished:
  • Phil. 4:13   I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
  1. Make a commitment to be pure.
  • First Peter 1:15 “But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation.”
  • Leviticus 20:7 “Sanctify yourselves therefore, and be ye holy: for I am the LORD your God.”
  • Make God your first love. Matthew 22:37-38 “Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment.”
  • Read and study the Word of God. Proverb 30:5 “Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him.”
  • Think about God’s Word and refer to it for guidance. Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
  • James 4:7 “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
  • First Timothy 5:2 “The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.”
  1. It is never too late to start over and to start right.
  • First John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
  • First Timothy 1:5 “Now the end of the commandment is charity out of a pure heart, and of a good conscience, and of faith unfeigned.”

Pre-marriage preparation and questions


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